curiosity killed the cat

curiosity killed the catReally? Curiosity is bad and causes problems? Growing up, my parents told me the above saying. Instead of asking so many questions, I was supposed to accept, trust, and enjoy whatever was happening. No explanation was needed.

So, I quit asking questions. In college, that led to making bad decisions regarding taking drugs. I was just going along with the crowd, having fun. I wasn’t asking questions regarding if it was safe or if someone could get arrested. That is, until my college roommate did get arrested. Then I started asking  intense questions like what’s the meaning of life, what am I going to do now, what’s going to happen when I tell my parents about my roommate?

Asking those questions changed my life. They led me to an abrupt Fresh Start in life. It began by allowing my curiosity to explore possibilities. Change was a process of struggle, release, and pursuit. In time, it led to a new lifestyle with a different spirituality and a new career path of teaching the blind. 

I’ve had several Fresh Starts in my life. Not all were major ones like the above. Several Fresh Starts were minor tweaks and changes to a situation in life or work. For example, as my leadership skills grew, my job within one church changed from administrator to overseeing hospitality to eventually become one of the pastors. Minor changes can lead to major ones.

In all my major and minor Fresh Starts, curiosity was the first step in becoming more integrated with who I am, living into my potential, and having a deeper joy. Curiosity and asking questions are powerful tools. 

If you are curious to see what happens when you ask questions, try this simple exercise below:


  1. Take 5 minutes. Choose one question from below or make up your own. Explore answering it. Journal about it if you like.
    1. When was the last time you really laughed and what caused it?
    2. What would you pursue if there was no chance of failure?
    3. Think of 3-5 people you enjoy being with. What do you enjoy about them?
    4. What would help you have more fulfillment in your life?
    5. ????? Ask your own question
  2. Remember there are no right or wrong answers, no better or worse ideas. You are on the path of curiosity, not making decisions or taking actions.
  3. Take a few minutes and reflect. Did you gain any insights? Did it spark more questions? Was it easy, fun, scary, or sad to explore and answer the question? 
  4. Let me know if you want help in pursuing the answers you discovered or if you’ve got more questions. That’s my job. And that’s what I love to do, help others pursue where their questions lead them. That is the Fresh Start.